There is a War for Your Family!

Building Strong Kid with God’s Perspective

I don’t know exactly how we did it, but Carol and I raised three very strong kids with a ton of confidence.

• Julie lives in downtown LA and goes to audition to be in the entertainment business. In 2012 she participated in over 50 auditions/interviews and booked 7 assignments. Her friends in the entertainment business say she is doing great!.
• Jill is a children’s pastor at a very large church in California. Jill travels, speaks, and leads groups in understanding how to have a fruitful children’s ministry.
• Josh is a successful hip-hop rap artist in Oklahoma City. He doesn’t have another job. He makes his living writing, producing, and performing his music.

None of my kids ask for my permission to pursue their dreams. They didn’t have to. They were their dreams and they believed they could achieve them. As you can tell, I am very proud of each of them!

I believe God has a plan for each of His children (Jeremiah 29:11; Ephesians 2:10). But they must understand their identity from God's perspective.

This is a spiritual exersize that will help you and your family begin to understand their identity from God's perspective. Find your Bible and open it up to Ephesians 1. Underline every description that you and your children need to learn, believe, and live out. Or, make this a series of faith talks and have a conversation with your family about what each of these Biblical descriptions of their identity in Christ means to them.

Don’t allow evil to steal your children

Read John 10:10; and 1 Peter 5:8

The thief, God’s enemy, the parent’s adversary, will seduce their children with a multitude of counterfeit identities.

• Lonely “If I hide from people it will be easier ”
• Anxious “If I am involved this will go really bad”
• Unwanted “If I make friends they wont like me”
• Body Image: "If I were _________(taller, shorter, thinner, more shapely,)__________ people would love me”
• Self deprecating “If people compliment me they want something from me”
• Reluctant “If I don’t try, I wont fail”
• Pessimist “Nothing ever works out for me”

The thief, God’s enemy, the parent’s adversary, wants to destroy our families -. He promises everything with distortions and trickery but gives nothing but pain, regret & bondage. Eph. 6:1-12.

Our children are tempted by counter identities every day. The question is which identity will they choose. Spiritual Parents take the environment of identity very seriously because they understand how much is at stake.

Our Words Define

Words carry enormous weight and our children’s minds. Our words actually shape their view of themselves in profound ways we must be careful what we say to them. oddly, we tend to make identity statements about the negative aspects of our children. Instead we should be giving them life by saying things that identify their identity in Christ.

The Blessing

A blessing is a beautiful gift to give our children. You can bless your children at bedtime when they’re young, before school as you drop them off, or as you drop them off for sports or band practices. Say something like, “you will do your best today, be strong and courageous, be bold in your faith, stand up for what is right, make someone smile today.” Try not to sound like the Brady Bunch’s dad. But do it the best you can!