Monday, March 3, 2014

The time is now...


Isn’t it funny how something can be so simultaneously joyful and saddening. I’m particularly thinking about the times when we notice just how much our children have grown. It’s exciting to see them maturing and becoming more capable young people, and yet it is difficult because it is a subtle reminder that they’re not going to always be under our roof. Weekly they are developing and gaining independence… And one of these days they will be gone. Although we know this is ultimately a good thing and still a little while away, it is a heavy thought to consider, especially when we begin to evaluate whether or not we’re readying them well.

Here recently, it has been our oldest child, Brooks, who has stirred these paradoxical feelings. He is a fifth grader that just recently turned eleven. He is physically maturing right before our eyes daily and apparently doing so with the metabolism of a hummingbird. Some days it costs as much to feed him as it does the other four of us combined, and that is only a slight exaggeration! Additionally, a couple months back, we discovered that there is a state mandated HIV/AIDS education video that his school district will be showing this week. This of course will cover some of the basics of human anatomy and reproduction. While we can opt for him to sit out and not participate, we have decided to send him. Between his lunchtime chats and discussions during his bus ride commute, we figure it is inevitable that he will hear about the topic of the video. And if that were to be the case, we would rather initiate and guide the conversation than allowing his pre-adolescent peers.

Bottom line is that the time to talk is now. Though we would love to put the dialogue of purity and guarding his heart (Proverbs 4:23) off for another decade or so, it just isn’t a reality. In this day and age our children are bombarded with images and terminology that if not accompanied with truth, will negatively shape their views of sexuality and marriage. In our culture sex is portrayed as either a bad thing (something you shouldn’t ever do) or a trivial thing (just a physical act). The Bible seems to express a far different message. It speaks of its beauty and fullness when properly enjoyed between a man and his wife. In fact, Genesis 2:18-25 seems to describe it as an emotional and spiritual mingling of souls. Brooks is just now starting to show an interest in girls and he is unable to legally drive, so we’re not worried about him becoming sexually active in the immediate future. However, we are concerned with helping position him for success in regard to purity and his pursuit of Christ. That is, our role is to teach him the skills and attitudes that will help him battle temptation well and consistently deposit nuggets of scriptural truth down into his soul. 

Okay honestly, that previous paragraph was tough to write. There was a sentence that included our son’s name and the phrase “sexually active.” Yikes!! The truth is that we have to be willing to go to those uncomfortable places and have some awkward conversations. We cannot keep our children sheltered forever. Dr. Tim Elmore encourages parents to “think prepare, not protect.” He goes on to say that “if we don’t spend time preparing, we will most assuredly spend time repairing.” They'll not remain under our wing forever. As they grow older, their time away from us will increase. Are we preparing them well for those days ahead? Beginning a life-long open dialogue about faith, fears, and everything in between is not only the best way to prepare them, it may be the only real protection we can offer. For my wife and I, it would seem that the time to get involved is here.

Truthfully, the time is here for all of us. Whether you have just recently become a new parent or you have a child that will soon be leaving the house for college, now is the time for you both. We must remember the gospel and always see the hope therein. For the good news of Jesus does not tell us to get cleaned up and come to Him when we’re ready. It says to come as you are! If we waited to be right and worthy before coming to God, we would never come. With this in mind, please do not wait to get your life prettied up and holy before you engage your children with truth of the scripture. If we postpone until then, they’ll be out the door before we even say a word. Yes, we must watch our lives closely. Yes, we should strive to walk in the words that we profess. However, if you think that it is your obedience and perfection that will save your kids from harm, much more their eternal souls, you friend, have deceived yourself. The hope for our children is the same as ours. It is dependent on the faithful obedience and perfection of Christ and His sacrificial, full payment that was made on our behalf through the cross. The truth is God loves our children even more than us! He loves them perfectly…patiently. May His love motivate us to play our role well and point our children back to Him. May we seek Him for strength and creativity as we work to structure an atmosphere and environment where each of our youth can thrive. Might we rest in knowing it is God that brings the very increase we desire; for it is He who brings salvation and protection. And finally, may we bravely step up to the challenge of the high calling before us and realize the time is now for us all.

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