Monday, June 30, 2014

But there is grace...


This past weekend our oldest son’s team participated in an out-of-state competitive baseball tournament that featured 32 squads hailing from eight different states. While uniforms and pre-game rituals varied from team to team, some things remained the same across the board. No, I’m not just referring to the over-the-top parents and coaches that seem to have their very identity and value riding on each and every win. That is a real and present danger to be addressed at another time. Today I’m talking about a common attitude I witnessed in many of these young players – one that often resembles our spiritual approach to life.

The response that seems the same in Illinois as it is in Louisiana, as it is in the Oklahoma boys we are raising is this: when a mistake is made by these young players, unnecessary pressure is immediately applied to try to make up for that mistake. So if a kid makes an error that leads to five unearned runs to put his team behind, he immediately tries to make up for that with one swing of the bat. The problem is, there’s no such thing as a 5-run homer. Making up for our failure isn’t always possible in that way. Sometimes one can only do what he can do. A player must move forward with the hand he’s dealt. Unfortunately, I saw so many young players boot balls around the infield and have bad at-bats, only to return to the field or batter’s box determined to avenge their blunder with the very next pitch. Baseball doesn’t work that way, and neither does life.

Sometimes there is no easy fix. Sometimes our mistakes carry a weight heavier than that day. Often our next best opportunity to make things right looms several weeks or months away and is often well-disguised. When that’s the case, the best thing one can do is move on by letting go and doing whatever can be done. Continuing to work from such a compounding deficit is wearisome and counterproductive.

Again, there is no 5-run homer and no eraser pitch. There is no way to undo errors that have been made. However, in Christ there is grace and mercy for every moment we face. There is a way to start afresh and find rest – not just a second chance at being perfect, but actually being made perfect in Christ. If just given another chance to figure things out on our own, we’d find ourselves back in the same dire position, desperately needing and hoping for another restart. What we find is that through the cross of Christ, there is forgiveness for every failure. In Jesus, all of our mistakes have been paid for and removed from us - not just the bad at-bats from our sinful past, but the errors and opportunities we will kick around in the future. Our heavenly Father doesn’t see our mediocrity, our bloopers, and utter insufficiency, but rather, He sees Christ’s perfection covering us. For those in Christ, He sees us as He sees His Son - perfect and blameless without condemnation. The guilt and shame that accompanied our life of never measuring up is taken away. In Jesus we find rest from the exhaustion of trying to satisfy a debt we could never atone.

While it breaks my heart to watch 11-year-old boys miss the joy of being kids playing a game, it would be far more tragic to see them spiritually respond in the same manner. As adult believers, we too are prone to react similarly. Personally, some of my most painful seasons have been lived forgetting such gospel truth. We have all fallen short. Not one of us has measured up. There is no effort we can muster to make things right…but for the grace of God. In Him there is newness, forgiveness, mercy, and hope in abundance. May we step up to plate each day reminded of God's amazing love, and experience the fullness of joy that comes with being His children.  In our highlights and our hiccups, might we remember the cross, and seek to make much of Him...



Wednesday, June 25, 2014

NBHighSchool Summer Camp 2014

We are having a great week...
To prove it here is a quick 'Top 10 events from #NBHS14 so far':

10) Pastor Matt kicking off our first day!!

9) First Tribal Competition (Dodgeball)!!

8) Mrs. Carol Sallee leading our morning tabernacle!!

7) Food (Steve and his posse are the best)!!

6) Tribal 2 & 3: Kickball & Whiffleball Tournament!!

5) Worship (Evening Tabernacle)!!

4) Fellas Small Groups!!

3) Ladies Small Groups!!

2) Bottomless Snowcones!!

1) Quiet Times!!

This list was probably not in any specific order... But as you can see we are having a blast and we're barely halfway!!  Hope to see some of our parents tonight at Family Worship Night at Camp Big Cedar, come hangout with us (Map attached below... See you between 6:30-7p)!!


It's right at a 2 hour drive, so we suggest leaving New Beginnings parking lot no later than 5p.
(South on US-75, West on I-40, South US-177 and then West on Hwy 39... You'll see the Camp Big Cedars sign right on Hwy 39, across the street from a small gas station)

Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Thanks To All Our VBS Volunteers

We had a great VBS week. There are so many little details that volunteers cover that make VBS a success. 
Our teachers were fabulous!
Team Japan had special Spy Headbands!
I cannot say enough to express how grateful we are for all the volunteers who poured out so many hours in service for Christ and furthering His Kingdom. 

When you think about people who, for many, have worked a full day at their job or home, and then come to gulp down a quick meal between 5:15--5:45, be prepped and in their position by 6:00, and serve children all night, and then clean up afterwards sometimes past 9:00--that is a serious undertaking! 

Matt leading a quick discussion or large group time-out?

Why would people do such a thing? 

Because they have understood what Christ accomplished for them on the cross. Because they have understood what Christ purchased for them with His own blood. 

Look at 1 John 2:2
"He is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the sins of the whole world."

If a person is truly captivated by the Jesus of the cross--that He took on their guilt and poured out His blood as the only acceptable sacrifice to God for the entire package of their own personal sins--that person also understands that the same salvation was on it's way to others as it made it's way to them. There are people young and old, near and far, broken and prideful, moral and immoral, some with more visible sins and some with more hidden sins, all deserving God's wrath--yet being offered grace, mercy, and reconciliation through Christ. That's what it means "the sins of the whole world." His grace was sufficient for all!

This past week, not only did our volunteers cover their areas of VBS with excellence, but they also had so much joy, enthusiasm, and grace for others. It is a beautiful thing and  takes a special group of people sacrificing much of their own free time to work together in proclaiming the saving message of Christ to the next generation. 
Have I mentioned how great our volunteers were?
Even Craig! (jk)
Can't do without the snow cones!






There were many decisions made to follow Christ and many children desiring baptism as well. Now, we must do the difficult and costly follow-up as parents continue to disciple their children and teach them diligently the ways of the Lord. We are extremely careful not to manipulate children in "making a decision." But we also do not want to fail to proclaim the urgency and weightiness in their need to respond to the gospel. We desire for many children and families to come to a full saving knowledge of the truth. Therefore, we faithfully clarify and simplify communicating the work of Christ on the cross and the saving gospel message to them consistently. 

Wednesday Night is Family Fun Night with bounces, snow cones, and free meals!

So nearly a hundred volunteers pieced together our VBS this year performing all sorts of small and large duties. And everything was woven together skillfully by our team of ladies (Kathryn Plumlee, Kerri Bowman, Darla Rogers, and Jamie Lynch) and our VBS coordinator, Katie Wallace. 

We had wonderful teaching, snacks, games, and crafts that all tied in to our theme "The One True God." Our children were cared for by an incredible group of people who desire to see Christ formed in their lives. Again, we cannot thank our many volunteers enough for all their time, effort, sacrifice, and hard work. 

Sankie P. Lynch
Pastor of Families
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Monday, June 23, 2014

"Uh, pardon me sir, but..."


While recently at a large gathering, I observed an older gentleman that had exited the restroom with his fly undone. Because I would have wanted to know had it been me, I casually walked up to the man and made him aware of his situation. He received the information with grace and humility. He seemed genuinely grateful that I had told him. You know, that’s not always the case though. On multiple occasions I’ve noticed similar scenarios (food in a beard, toilet paper stuck to a shoe, nasal issues, etc.) only to discover that it would have been better to keep the observation to myself. Folks (myself included) are easily embarrassed and prone to being defensive, making excuses, and avoiding uncomfortable issues altogether, especially when it pertains to spiritual things.

No, it wasn't Sir Paul that I confronted.
The story above got me thinking… How do I handle those times when someone offers careful correction or gentle rebuke? Usually not well, and I’m not alone on this. Spiritually speaking, it is as if we’d rather walk around with our pants unzipped than acknowledge that we might have missed something. Why is that? Why is it so hard to hear that we may possibly be in error? Well, I can’t speak for you, but in my case, the root issue is always pride.

Somewhere along the way, I get to thinking that I am important and useful in my own strength. Somehow I begin to believe the success I’m enjoying has been brought about through my own hard work. Anything that questions that or threatens the way I’m feeling about myself is unwelcomed. Though I’d never admit it in the moment, I feel that I’m deserving of good things. In my own "wisdom," I have something special to offer the world, so people ought to listen up. Which means this: if my theology is off, or my work ethic is lacking, or grace is absent from my actions and attitudes...and someone tries to let me know… I probably won’t receive it well, because at some point, I started believing the lie that I could pull this whole thing off without Christ.

It is hard to type the above paragraph, realizing just how stubborn and shortsighted I can be. Quite frankly, it is embarrassing. Obviously this will continue to be something I’m forced to wrestle with but I have started to make some headway. First of all, I know that not every critique is accurate. Many are often associated with one’s own agenda or personal preferences. So, I try to take criticism from folks that I don’t know well with a grain of salt. I am learning to bring friends in for this kind of evaluation – my wife, my colleagues, the trusted men in my life… “Hey, do you see this in me?” Or “Did you take that a certain way?” Their input is valuable and reliable.

Secondly, I acknowledge that being vulnerable is hard. Exposing your heart to anyone (even your spouse) can be difficult at times. I mean, one must consider, what will they do with this information? What will they think of me? What if they’re right? Trusting someone with sensitive information and not knowing their response is scary. However, what is the alternative? Not being known? Just cruising through life with my own biased opinion of myself? Even with a heavy dose of daily Scripture, if I am reading and processing solely in isolation, with no community to help me digest what I’m learning, I will soon be in danger of confusing my own voice for that of the Holy Spirit.

Lastly, and this is a hard one, I’m being reminded of the implications of always having an excuse. To have a defense ready each and every time I’m challenged implies that I’m a finished project no longer in need of God’s grace. I no longer need His divine growth and sanctification. If I’ve graduated beyond reproof and correction, I’m essentially saying that I’m a completely polished product. The big problem is that either makes God a liar, suggesting the cross was unnecessary, or it shows me for the fool that I am – one desperately in need of forgiveness and mercy. 

I pray we might each find a place where we can truly be known – a place where our blind spots can be identified. Oh might we learn to receive admonition from friends as what it truly is: God’s grace toward us, granting us opportunity to grow for His glory.



Friday, June 20, 2014

10 Secrets of VBS Spy Success!

In the partnership between parents, other parents, and New Beginnings Church there are many secrets. In the "Spy World'" we secret agents don't divulge everything there is to know. Some secrets are too important to release, unless they will serve the purpose of the assignment (Thanks to Julie Kahlil for taking these photos below).

Below are some top secret, high security, spy secrets.

Secret #1 This first class, top notch Spy Academy would not have been possible if it had not been for the 100+ volunteers from New Beginnings Church who gave tirelessly, served unselfishly, led and loved effectively. You know who you are, even if your secret identity has not been revealed! Most of the 100+ volunteers are not highlighted in photos below, but that does't mean that they are not appreciated nor highly influential of the young lives they assisted this week at VBS Spy Academy.


Smiling VBS 2014 Leadership Team.
Secret #2 Any top notch Spy Academy has a top notch leadership team. These 3 secret agents leaders are (from left to right) are Katherine Plumlee, Katie Wallace, and Kerri Bowman. They are all 3 volunteers who gave countless hours, plenty of energy, and served well with positive attitudes.

I have had conversations with several others who all agree that this job is among the most difficult in the church. Our fearless leaders faced this challenge with grit, determination, and faithfulness. VBS ran as smoothly as it ever has and these 3 were responsible to provide a memorable experience for south Tulsa families.


Tammy Butler and Becky Even
Secret #3 When skilled and experienced Spy Academy Spy Trainers commit them selves to the cause - great spies emerge! The training was fun, creative, and the spies learned eternal truth about our One True God!

Typically, when parent's kids grow too old for VBS, parents retire from VBS, never to return. But Becky and Tammy are not typical. They agreed to serve at VBS together and the spies were blessed.

Becky and Tammy are both school teachers during the academic year. Like all teachers, they treasure their summer for resting, relaxing and reenergizing for the next school years. Yet Becky and Tammy blessed the kids and their families by voluntarily sacrificing another week to train these kids with life changing bible truth. Thank them for setting the example for the rest of us empty nesters.


Secret #4 Tracy Finch is another school teacher who voluntarily sacrificed another week of her summer. The thing we learned about Tracy this week is that she will do anything if it will bless the kids.
Tracy Finch as
Agent Marsha Mallow

Her main task this week was to provide funny and interesting "sight gags" as Madame Fluffy-pants scientist genius assistant.

She emerged on the stage in goggles, holding a rubber rat in tongs, stalking Agent ZZ with martial art threats (presumably to hone his defenses), and generally doing whatever she was asked.

Tracy and her husband Scott were faithful, fun, and dependable to serve the Spy Academy.



Cheryl Plumlee as
Snack's Leader
Secret #5 Cheryl Plumlee has been the VBS snack leader since Sean Connery was Agent 007. She has been training as an International Spy Leader for many years as Charlie's wife. Charlie is a a charming mixture of Chief Inspector Jacques Clouseau and Cato Fong. There are two secrets about Cheryl that must be disclosed:

1) Cheryl arrives hours before VBS to prepare the snack for 200+ VBS kids and 100+ VBS adult leaders. This week, while she was hand stirring the largest bowl of pudding in recorded human history, she simultaneously asked the pastor a question about how to explain the Trinity. Cheryl didn't want to give the spies any misinformation about the nature of God.

2) Although she doesn't consider herself a polished public speaker, she grabs the mic each time the snack rotation changes and does a terrific job explaining the secret meaning to the creative snack she prepared for them hour earlier. Wow!

Thank you Cheryl for putting up with Charlie, for serving faithfully as VBS snack Czar, and for blessing our kids for generations.


Japanese Dojo of Ninja Spies
Secret #6 Joel Rogers must have studied Bruce Lee and Jackie Chan when preparing for his role and Japanese Spy and Dojo leader. Joel is a hero for a number of reasons:

1) Joel is a life long preacher's kids who has been manhandled into attending VBS his entire life. If anybody has a good excuse for avoiding VBS it is Joel Rogers.

2) Joel is one of several adult males who volunteer to sacrifice their time to bless our kids. It is not uncommon for VBS to be primarily led by women. Although VBS would't function without the essential role on women, it is always good to have an excellent example of strong, spiritual, male leadership.
Joel Rogers and son 

3) Joel is Darla Roger's husband (see Darla below). He and Darla have served our preschool as partners in ministry for a long time. They have provided calm stability and dependable leadership to an essential part of the church - preschool.

My favorite story about Joel this week occurred on the very first night of VBS. A little first grade boy suffering from debilitating shyness and separation anxiety (from his mom) was brought to Joel's Japanese Spies spy training group. I explained the complexity of this little guy who didn't want to stay and was in the verge of tears. Tears are an effective strategy in parental manipulation. Joel, with a black belt tied around his head and a fake black polyester mustached glued to his lip, bent over and barked to this little dude (with a thick Japanese accent). "Welcome to Dojo!" The little guy followed Joel to the group and never looked back. Later that day he flinched threatened me with a Karate chop. All was well. This shy spy was being trained well!


Darla Rogers VBS
Preschool Leader 
Secret #7 Darla Rogers is the epitome of secret agent. She has served New Beginnings and VBS behind the scenes for many years. She and Joel saw a need in our preschool area and took action to become a part of the solution. It may have been easier for them to see the need and avoid it. Perhaps they could find a church where there weren't these needs? But they didn't take the easy path. They took the gospel path!

I am so thankful for Darla!

Many don't know but Darla recently lost her father pre-maturely to cancer. She is still grieving this tremendous loss. Still, as before, she saw the need, she knew she could fill it at VBS, and she served VBS volunteers kids with the same - behind the scenes, calm stability and dependable leadership that parents love and expect.


Agent Zig Zag and Spy Academy CEO Agent Fluffypants 
Secret #8 Carol Sallee was the Spy Academy's Chief Inspector Madame Fluffy-pants. What most learned over the week is that she patterned her character after Judi Dench’s top spy character, "M," in the spy classic "James Bond 007." Of course, Chief Inspector Madame Fluffy-pants was a younger more beautiful version of "M." There are at least two secrets that most don't know about Carol/Chief Inspector Madame Fluffy-pants

1) Carol rewrote the entire script of the curriculum. Carol writes professionally for Lifeway Christian Resources. In fact, she has written VBS curriculum for Lifeway. No one asked her to do this. Carol intuitively saw how the opening and closing assemblies could be more properly targeted to our young spy audience so she began writing. The new script was spot on, humorous, and engaging. Her gifts and abilities never cease to impress me. Carol is a volunteer like so many other volunteers. She serves with joy and giftedness. But that is no secret.

2) Carol has been through two of the most difficult weeks of her life. The past two weeks her parent's health faded fast and simultaneously (please keep them in your prayers). Carol's mom was diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer and has begun chemotherapy to shrink the cancer prior to surgery. Last week she had to rush her mom to the emergency room on the same day her father was have emergency gallbladder surgery. Each day, the week of VBS she left for work early, after work she would stop by her parent's house or the chemo clinic to check on her/him/them, and finally she would rush straight to New Beginnings Church to kick off the opening assembly which she scripted last week in her spare time. She remarked the week prior to VBS, "I'm looking forward to being in this skit with you." She amazes me. Spy Academy's Chief Inspector Madame Fluffy-pants was a hard hitting, no smiling, serious spy instructor. If you know Carol she was playing that part which was very foreign to her. She is funny and charming. But that is no secret either.


Secret #9 The Next Level Students are always a great help during VBS and this week was no exception. Next Level is a training program for selected high school students. It's like VBS for young adults except it is all summer long. They receive training and tackle assignments. They are learning to become a church who gives and leads. Kids look up to teenaged students (literally and figuratively). We can be thankful that the Next Level students are worthy of their admiration.


Secret #10 The New Beginnings Spy Academy was a huge success. A successful VBS is sum total of a church that invests in families + families that trust their church + volunteers that invest themselves + plus a Lord and Savior that makes all the time and effort worth it. Way to go Sankie Lynch! Your team has completed it's spy training and the mission is underway!

Dr. Phil Sallee, Pastor
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Thursday, June 19, 2014

Love, Leadership and Teammork

Tim Elmore's blog below talks about the Leadership characteristics a professional Basketball player that has demonstrated through his love for his teammates, his love for others and how he is giving back to the community.

 

Finally—We Recognize the Other Side of Leadership

For years, we have read about national champions, most valuable players and top-level performers in every sport. Two years ago, the NBA chose to honor a different award winner — the best teammate. Shane Battier called it one of the biggest honors of his life.
 
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photo credit: Basketball Schedule via photopin cc

The Miami Heat forward was announced recently as the winner of the league’s Twyman-Stokes Teammate of the Year award, which recognized selfless play, leadership, work as a role model to other players, and commitment. The NBA will make a $25,000 donation to the Battier Take Charge Foundation, which raises money to help provide children with educational and leadership opportunities.
You should know that Battier was the runaway winner this year, being elected by votes from players who are not currently on his team. He showed up on over 200 ballots. Evidently, everyone sees these qualities in Shane.

Two Things I Love
I love two realities about this award. First, I love the fact that a professional organization like the NBA actually recognizes these attributes as worthy of affirmation, setting an example for boys who are glued to ESPN and the NBA. Second, I love the fact that the award connects leadership to something besides being the player who scores the most points. While I fully recognize we must measure points — it’s how games work — there will only be one player each year who scores the most. In fact, if that’s all that mattered, leadership could be viewed as a purely selfish thing: “Do-whatever-it-takes” to hog the ball and make the basket. Instead, Shane Battier demonstrated he could help his team win a championship this year by playing for something other than the most points, most rebounds, most free throws, etc. No doubt Shane buys into the statement by legendary Coach John Wooden: “The player who puts the ball through the hoop has ten hands.”

Battier said after receiving the award: “Although the guys in my locker room couldn’t cast any votes for me, I’d like to think they would’ve voted for me if they could,” Battier said. “I hope they know that I love them, and I appreciate them and in everything I do — I try to make that locker room better and this team better.”
Contrast this attitude with Allen Iverson, the NBA superstar who a few years ago said in an interview, “Practice? How can I make my teammates better by going to practice?” Ugh. Mr. Iverson, you still have so much to learn about leadership… and a lot of maturing to do.

Five Truths This Award Teaches Us About Leadership
  1. Leadership is about team progress, not personal statistics. The cliché is true: It’s about the name on the front of the jersey, not the back of it.
  1. Leadership is about doing the right thing when no one is watching, not just during a game or performance. Good leaders have pure motives.
  1. Leaders lose the right to be selfish. They see the bigger picture and focus on the whole. Their measuring gauge: Did I make my teammates better?
  1. Leadership begins with an attitude of service, sacrifice and passion. It is more caught than taught to others.
  1. Healthy leadership always adds value and is never toxic. It works like the tide on the ocean: As it rises, all the boats go up. Leaders improve team culture.
Shane just announced his retirement from the NBA, saying from the beginning that he wanted to play for ten years and leave before someone asked him to do so. He ended up playing for 13 years, and may I just say — no one is asking him to leave. He will go out on top, in my book.
My hat’s off to Shane Battier and the NBA for this award. May this become part of the sports culture as we impart what it means to lead the next generation.
  
John 13:34-35

“I give you a new command: Love one another. Just as I have loved you, you must also love one another. By this all people will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”